Everyone has a different experience of what is disgusting. As I get older, the things that disgust me center on the abuse of power, such as sending people to war for the purpose of corporate profits, incidents of police brutality, pedophilia … you get the picture. I don’t have the energy or interest to be disgusted by consenting adults having fun together. This might not be worthy of your energy either.
But you’re happy to use the site yourself, which means you are also comfortable with women, and moms, in general using it as well.
So the issue here is your reaction to the idea that your mom, specifically, uses the site. So let’s turn that around. Supposing everyone whose mom used the site objected to them using it, and succeeded in getting them to stop. That would mean two things: many women would have been prevented from having a little fun because their kids exerted control over their right to enjoy themselves, and you would have a far more restricted choice of potential partner.
The idea that no-one else should have any right to dictate how anyone seeks a bit of consensual fun is an important moral principle, that’s worth fighting for and we’re edging closer to winning the battle.
Logically, you’ve got three choices here, if you don’t want to be a hypocrite. You can accept it, and say nothing. You can be up front about it. Hey, perhaps you could even double-date and watch out for each other. Or, you could stop. If the idea of your mom with a younger man grosses you out, then you should also recognise that the relatives of the women you date might be grossed out by you dating them, and if your feelings matter, theirs do too. So you have to stop right now to protect their feelings.
Or, you could adjust your outlook. Your discomfort is a visceral response to a deep-seated human taboo: we don’t like to think of our parents as sexual beings, even though by definition they are. That probably has its roots in how our brains suppress incestuous desire - we don’t think about having sex with people we grew up around, and the very thought of them having sex is pretty unpleasant for us. It may help to think through how you feel and keep asking yourself “why?” at each turn until you get to something you can recognise for what it is: an irrational bias that you can choose to set aside. It’s not easy, but you can do it.
The bottom line is, you don’t have any rights over who or how your mom chooses to date. Confronting her is almost certainly a bad idea; it will almost certainly lead to an argument, and to do so you need to reveal that you’ve also been using the site. Ultimately, the issue is with you and not her. You need to change your own response.ANSWERS： So, you're on the same site for the same reasons - sex with someone of a reasonably different age from yourself.
You are not disgusted with yourself, but you are with her.
That sums it up, correct?
You have two options as I see it.
Accept that she's got a sexual appetite still and needs to slake that thirst, and let her be.
Roundly condemn her to her face, realise that you're a hypocrite for wanting to deny her what you seek yourself, and ruin your relationship.
Whatever you do, it may be worth deleting your profile in case she spots yours.ANSWERS： Several options. This is an excellent opportunity for self-development of Biblical and Shakespearean proportions
You should tell you mother exactly what you have told us here and perhaps she can help you get some treatment for your wildly inconsistent beliefs.
Conceal your identity somewhat and encourage her into an online chat followed as soon as possible by “no face” webcam masturbation. This might not help you much, but it will make a great story for the grandkids.
Since you clearly are not looking for a “casual encounter,” because casual encounters between older women and younger men disgust you, so you should reflect on what you are looking for and ask yourself is you have what it takes to satisfy women like your mother. Perhaps your mother is already providing you with what you need, but you just don’t realize it.
Post her profile on your FB page and ask your friends if they think your mom is hot.
Start keeping a mastubation diary.
Double-dating! Then the sad old woman you are banging and your mom can have someone to chat to while you and the other silly little boy talk about sports (or masturbation).